2014 had been a year of soaring highs (two awesome overseas trips) and despairing lows (losing my beloved Grandma & having a breakdown). I was determined that 2015 would be more about balance as I could no longer stand feeling so overwhelmed & out of control.
Although I love the idea of setting a resolution at the start of a new year I rarely have been able to see them through. The way I’m wired as an over-thinking perfectionist, I’ve come to the conclusion that they more often than not set me up to fail. So, vowing to never get out of control again wasn’t going to work, but I wanted some way of carving out a path to wellness.
I found Danielle LaPorte’s work on The Desire Map a couple of weeks into the new year & the idea just sang to me. I went through the process with gusto & came up with my words or Core Desired Feelings. If you want to know more go check it out here. I have nothing to gain from this recommendation except that I want to pass on the value I feel I’ve gotten from using this technique.
Everything I did & didn’t do last year was run through the lens of my CDF’s (Core Desired Feelings).
If something didn’t make me feel any of these things and I had a choice about whether to do it or not, then I didn’t. I also sought out more of what did make me feel in line with my CDF’s. This meant I actually stood up for myself, asked for what I needed and set up stronger personal boundaries as a welcome side effect.
I’m really glad for this process as it slowed me down & made me ask questions of myself. It’s a keeper in my simplicity toolkit. I’m working on how I want to feel in 2016. Even though in my time zone we are already 12 hours into the new year it’s not something I want to rush. Their power will be reduced if the chosen feelings are not fully aligned with who I am and want to become.
I’ll let you know what I’ve selected soon. That’s another thing I found…CDF’s are so much more effective when you share them with others. Accountability & support are the result.
Have you tried Desire Mapping? Share your experiences in the comments.
The sun has set on 2015 & I am feeling an overwhelming sense of gratitude and peace. So far removed from the depths of chaos 12 months ago.
From my heart to yours,