A ‘crew’ is a group of people working together for a particular purpose. Often this is quite formal like a ship’s crew, but in slang terms, it can just denote a group of people who hang out together.
In motor racing you can end up spending too much time in the pit lane spinning your wheels & not enough time out there laying rubber on the track, if you don’t have a good support crew.
Bands on tour also have a support crew (roadies). This important team of people handle everything that isn’t part of performing on stage so the band can focus on having the energy to do what they do best.
When it comes to the professional networking space the quality of the connections are just as important as they are in your personal life. You need both & both ideally, should be strong.
What is a ‘good support crew’?
Simply, a good support crew is there through triumph and trial. They have your back. They want you to succeed. They want to help you get where you need to be. They will give tough love when required & hand you a tissue when you shed tears of frustration or loss.
Why you need a good support crew?
This is probably quite obvious. We perform better with a support crew rather than trying to do everything on our own. I don’t care who you are…humans are social creatures & we need nurturing networks. The concept of finding your tribe has been on the rise recently. I believe this is in part because despite having many tools to help keep us connected, we’ve become superficial at relationships because we are so time poor & distraction prone.I don't care who you are, humans are social creatures & we need nurturing networks. Click To Tweet
I also think the concept of having a modern day ‘tribe’ is valuable as it usually denotes a group of people who have similar interests & philosophies. This is a key part of what you are hoping for in your support crew.
How do you you know if you have the right support crew?
Think about a time recently when you’ve gone through a rough patch, big or small. Did you have people you trusted to talk to? Did you have at least one person who you could rely on in that time of need?
What about when you’ve needed to confide in someone? Were you able to seek out someone you trusted?
Perhaps you needed an impartial & honest opinion on something. Would it be easy to touch base with someone who would listen & not jump in with half baked solutions?
If you answered yes to any of these, then you probably have at least the beginnings of a good support crew.
What do you do when someone in your crew isn’t good for you?
If it’s a friendship that is no longer positive, stop working at it. Let it taper off and die a natural death. Ok, so I’m a chicken who doesn’t like confrontation. I’m not proud of it but I think it’s healthier to let someone go than suffer on especially if you think they won’t change.
What if it’s family that are putting a muzz on your buzz?
Family may not always be understanding or supportive of your interests. You can still love them of course…but you could limit your time with them if they are bringing you down. If you do spend a lot of time with someone you love that doesn’t get what you are in to, perhaps ask them not to comment on the topic of your passion so they don’t sidetrack you from what you are working towards.
I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase:
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. – Jim Rohn
I’m definitely in 100% agreement. I’ve seen it in action. My friendship groups have changed a lot over the last decade or two. The kinds of people I seek out & hang out with nowadays are very different from the kind of crowd I liked 20 years ago, even 10. I make no apologies for that & wouldn’t have it any other way.
I’m so grateful for the quality relationships I have in my life. They help me to grow & make we want to be an even better person.
How do you recruit new crew members?
You need to be super picky & not in a rush. We don’t have a lot of time to spend with our crew these days in general, so quality counts more than quantity. You could try any of the following ideas. I’ve certainly found some of them more successful than I would have thought before trying these tips.
- Revive a lapsed friendship with someone you like but haven’t kept in regular contact with
- Join a meetup group to meet like minded people in your area
- Do a course that interests you and make friends with your classmates
- Have lunch with someone at work that you don’t know that well but think would be cool to get to know
- Make friends online & then meet them IRL
- Get curious about people you meet in everyday life & ask them about their dreams rather than just what they do for a living
- Reach out to people in the groups you are already associated with; whether it be clubs, sporting groups or professional networks
- Connect with other parents at the groups your kids are involved with
Taking care of your great crew
You get out what you put in with your relationships. It’s that simple.
We all need to take time out to care for ourselves so I’m not suggesting you go fill up your calendar to bursting. I wrote about how to clear your schedule here. What I am suggesting is that you are choosy about who you spend your time with, be really clear about what you need in the relationship & allow others to do the same.You get out what you put in with your relationships. It's that simple. Click To Tweet
From my my heart to yours,