As a sufferer of Generalised Anxiety Disorder there was no way that worries weren’t going to pop into my mind while I built the new blog this week.
I worry about trivial things, silly things, things other people don’t even think twice about. I was definitely going to worry during this project even though I’d been looking forward to it. I’d carved out a week of my holidays to build the kind of online home that I’d dreamed about over the last year. I love creative projects but I’m also a perfectionist, which I think goes hand in hand with anxiety.
Introducing the worry box
A few weeks ago I had heard someone on a podcast mention the concept of a Worry Box. I wish I could remember who, to give them credit, but I do have a bit of a podcast habit. The concept went along the lines of….grab a box and decorate it and then write out your worries and place them into the box. A quick Google search confirmed that it was useful for children and was a popular technique to deal with anxiety.
I thought immediately about the half painted wooden box that was in with my craft supplies. It was going to house another deck of tarot cards but given I’m now decluttering like a boss, who needs to buy another tarot deck!
Out came the paints and I made it look really appealing so it would encourage me to use it during the blog building project. I finished it last week after work in readiness for Monday morning 8am.
I got straight into it after turning on the computer. As soon as I saw it there sitting on my desk I thought….”that’s not going to work”. So that had to be the first worry I recorded and dispensed into the box!
It didn’t stop there, I diligently wrote out more worries as they popped into my head over the next few days. It felt good to be able to physically put them aside as it had a mirrored effect in my mind. They were no longer front and centre and I was free to concentrate on the task at hand.
Not without worry but I felt entirely comfortable that I had handed them over.
Moving past a manifested worry
A few of the worries actually ended up coming true & weirdly that was okay. They weren’t the dire outcomes I thought could happen. Here are a few examples and how I got over them:
I’m worried what people at work will think as I put my full name out there…
Turns out they are my biggest supporters & were excited to see a preview!
I’m worried I’ve confused or lost followers by changing my social media handle…
I ended up getting more new followers in the last week than I have in any other week in a while!
I’m worried I can’t figure out all the tech stuff & I’ll make a mistake…
Made plenty of mistakes & none of them have been unrecoverable!
Suddenly petty worry was useful as I got immediate feedback that quelled my anxieties overall.
It’s been a game changer!
Have you ever tried something like this?
From my heart to yours,